From Overwhelmed to Empowered: Accepting Your Sensitivity
Diving into the beautiful chaos of our emotions, Aline serves up a hearty dose of self-love in this episode, inviting us to embrace our sensitivity like a cozy blanket on a chilly day. It’s all about recognizing that our sensitivity isn’t a weakness; it’s a unique gift that can enrich our lives and those around us. Aline breaks down the concept of sensitivity, illustrating how it encompasses everything from creative talents like writing and painting to the more nuanced ability to feel what others feel. By sharing personal anecdotes and relatable stories, she helps us reflect on our past experiences where we might have inadvertently pushed our sensitivities aside, stifled by the expectations of others. As we grab our favorite cup of tea and settle in, Aline gently guides us through exercises aimed at identifying those moments and reassessing the narratives we’ve built about our sensitivity. This isn’t just about acceptance; it’s about celebrating who we are at our core and recognizing that our quirks can be our greatest strengths, turning what felt like a burden into a badge of honor. By the end of this episode, I’m feeling inspired to embrace my inner weirdo and let my creativity shine, all while laughing at the absurdity of ever thinking my sensitivity was anything less than fabulous.
In this enlightening chat, Aline opens the door to a world where sensitivity is celebrated rather than shunned. She encourages us to reflect on our upbringing and how societal pressures may have led us to suppress our true selves. Think about it—how many times were we told as kids to toughen up or to stop being too emotional? Aline shares how these well-meaning comments can inadvertently push us into a box where we feel like we have to hide our authentic selves. As we unpack this together, she emphasizes that acknowledging our sensitivity is the first step towards acceptance. Through gentle prompts, she helps us identify the times in our lives when we silenced our inner voices, often in the name of fitting in or pleasing others. Aline reassures us that this journey isn’t about blaming anyone but understanding that we all come from different backgrounds and experiences. The real magic happens when we start to rewrite our stories and recognize that our sensitivity can lead to meaningful connections and profound creativity.
As we journey through this episode, Aline’s warmth and reassurance shine through like sunshine on a cloudy day. She reminds us that sensitivity is a spectrum, and it can manifest in various forms—whether it’s a keen sense of empathy or a heightened awareness of our surroundings. Aline skillfully navigates the discussion towards actionable insights, encouraging us to take a moment for self-reflection. She suggests we jot down three pivotal moments from our childhood where we may have felt our sensitivities were dismissed. This isn’t about dredging up old wounds but rather about understanding how those experiences shaped our beliefs about ourselves. By identifying these moments, we can start to unravel the limiting beliefs that have held us back from fully embracing our gifts. Aline's approach is refreshing; it’s less about finding a quick fix and more about nurturing a relationship with ourselves. By the end of the episode, I’m left feeling empowered to embrace my sensitivity unapologetically, ready to unleash my creativity and connect with the world in a more authentic way.
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Welcome to Accepting, where I guide you to accept all aspects of your beautiful self, embrace your truth, and live your life that way.
Speaker B:Hello, gorgeous.
Speaker B:And a warm welcome to Accepting.
Speaker B:I'm Aline, the acceptance coach.
Speaker B:I'm a channel, a mentor and a coach, and I love to see highly sensitive people and empaths flourish.
Speaker B:In this episode, we are going to be diving into accepting your sensitivity.
Speaker B:So get yourself comfy, grab yourself a cup of tea, and let's dive in.
Speaker B:So first of all, what we're going to cover in this episode is accepting your sensitivity.
Speaker B:It's beginning to accept your sensitivity.
Speaker B:Now we're going to cover where you may have started pushing your sensitivity away.
Speaker B:And when I talk about sensitivity, it's under a very large umbrella.
Speaker B:So first of all, I'm going to talk about what can sensitivity mean?
Speaker B:Then I'm going to talk about how as empaths, as highly sensitive people, when we're younger, how there's a possibility where we pushed that sensitivity and those gifts away.
Speaker B:Then I'm going to talk you through a process which you can do on your own or you can do along with me.
Speaker B:And the process is going to really help you understand where you started pushing your sensitivity away.
Speaker B:And it's a very interesting one.
Speaker B:And we go in very gently, judgment free, comparison free zone, blame free zone.
Speaker B:This is all about accepting your sensitivity and accepting where you are now.
Speaker B:And before we accept where we are now, it's really important to start noticing and reviewing where we may have stopped accepting our sensitivity.
Speaker B:So it's a really gentle process.
Speaker B:You're completely safe, my gorgeous.
Speaker B:I've got you.
Speaker B:It's all good.
Speaker B:Okay, so let's talk about sensitivity.
Speaker B:So when I talk about sensitivity, I'm talking about your gifts.
Speaker B:I'm talking about you may be a beautiful writer, you may be a beautiful artist, you may be a beautiful singer, you may be a beautiful psychic, you may be a beautiful seer, you may be a beautiful healer.
Speaker B:There's so many more.
Speaker B:You may be a beautiful weaver, you may be a beautiful cartoonist.
Speaker B:All of this is sensitivity.
Speaker B:Sensitivity for me is creativity.
Speaker B:It's really, really connecting with our true, beautiful essence of connectivity.
Speaker B:And it's identifying what feels right for us.
Speaker B:There's no wrong or right.
Speaker B:There just is your way.
Speaker B:There's no right way.
Speaker B:There's no wrong way.
Speaker B:There's your way.
Speaker B:And it's about really accepting these beautiful gifts that you have.
Speaker B:Also, sensitivity can be very literally means sensitive in terms of sensitive to the touch, sensitive to bright light, sensitivity with loud noises, and sometimes we don't think these are gifts, these are gifts.
Speaker B:And I will get into that as well.
Speaker B:And also, sensitivity can mean sensitivity as empaths, where we feel what's going on around us.
Speaker B:So there's so many names and labels that I really don't want to use.
Speaker B:It's just giving you examples.
Speaker B:So when I say sensitivity, it doesn't mean just one thing.
Speaker B:Okay?
Speaker B:So that's really important.
Speaker B:Number one, sensitivity doesn't mean one thing.
Speaker B:It can mean a myriad of beautiful gifts.
Speaker B:So what we're going to do, and throughout the, the podcast episodes, we're going to start identifying what, what your favourite sensitivity is.
Speaker B:First of all, let's focus on accepting your sensitivity.
Speaker B:So number one, we've spoken about what the different types of sensitivity are.
Speaker B:Now what I'd like to talk to you about now is in a very gentle, gentle way, how it's very possible that you pushed your sensitivity away.
Speaker B:And this, as I said, is a blame free zone, is a comparison free zone.
Speaker B:This is just about understanding and accepting.
Speaker B:So once we accept a situation happened, that is when we can start making beautiful changes.
Speaker B:So everything I'm sharing with you is to help you understand who you truly are.
Speaker B:You're not changing yourself, you're accepting yourself.
Speaker B:All right, so when we were younger, as highly sensitive people and empaths, it's highly likely that our families and those around us didn't necessarily understand us.
Speaker B:And it's highly likely that because we didn't really understand what was going on with us, we didn't know how to express that.
Speaker B:And it's highly likely that when we were on our own, we expressed our sensitivity because there may have been a situation and if there wasn't, if you were completely held and you had really sensitive mentors and peers and family growing up, that's wonderful.
Speaker B:I'm delighted for you.
Speaker B:I'm talking about those of us who were very, very sensitive as we were born and started showing signs of this, not really understanding what was happening.
Speaker B:And when we perhaps approached this, we weren't understood or we realized that nobody around us was the same way, so we weren't fitting in.
Speaker B:So this is really important to recognise, and I don't want to say category, it's really important to recognise your story and your narrative that you began to tell yourself, now this is going, this is going to be two episodes long.
Speaker B:This is just touching the surface.
Speaker B:Okay, so this is just a very, very gentle entry into accepting your sensitivity.
Speaker B:And I'm going to give you some examples that may or may not Resonate.
Speaker B:And I would like you just to really feel into them.
Speaker B:And then number three, I'm going to take you through a really gentle process that you do on your own to help you start recognizing where that may have felt true for you.
Speaker B:Because as sensitives, I've spoken previously about the three Fs, the fight, the flight and the freeze.
Speaker B:As sensitives, when we were younger, if we didn't have that supportive environment, and I'm not talking about not having a loving environment, that's not what I'm talking about at all.
Speaker B:I'm talking about where.
Speaker B:Where our families didn't necessarily understand us, our elders didn't necessarily understand us, or, or we didn't feel because we didn't understand what was going on, because we looked around at everybody else and nobody was like us, we didn't feel we could express what was happening.
Speaker B:When we're in our formative years, we're like sponges.
Speaker B:We are looking at everything around us, taking it all in and building our personalities based on what is around us.
Speaker B:And if there are people who are not like us, then it's very likely that we didn't feel we were normal.
Speaker B:And we started changing our personalities to adapt to the environments and the people that we were with, to please them, to fit in.
Speaker B:And it's highly likely that from a very, very young age we started pushing down our gifts because we were told we were too sensitive or we were told stopped being stopped being so silly, or we were expressing in a creative way and we were told off.
Speaker B:And this is a judgment free zone.
Speaker B:This is just to accept, and this is really important, except that when we were younger, the environments that we chose to come into before we lived this life was an environment where the people wouldn't necessarily understand us and was an environment where we didn't necessarily feel that we could express ourselves.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:And again, if this didn't happen to you, wonderful.
Speaker B:So I'm talking about where there was a situation.
Speaker B:So our formative years were like sponges.
Speaker B:We're absorbing everything that's going on.
Speaker B:We're creating our personalities.
Speaker B:We're watching whatever's going on around us.
Speaker B:Especially as sensitives, we're observing and as empaths because we feel so much, we know so much, we see so much, we hear so much.
Speaker B:We are observing how others are acting around us as normal.
Speaker B:And so we can start developing our personality based on what we deem as normal.
Speaker B:And also as we are feeling so much.
Speaker B:And we understand that our sensitivities help us feel calm when Everybody else around us feels calm.
Speaker B:That is when we can go into people pleasing mode and that is when we can start becoming who other people want us to become.
Speaker B:Because then they're happy and then we're happy and then this can actually follow us through our lives.
Speaker B:And it's so interesting and it's just very, very gentle, this episode.
Speaker B:Just a very gentle introduction.
Speaker B:It's so interesting, just accepting and identifying where we gently started pushing our gifts down.
Speaker B:And it starts early.
Speaker B:So it may be, my gorgeous, that your greatest fear is actually your greatest gift.
Speaker B:Now just let that sink in a moment.
Speaker B:Your greatest fear of showing up in the world.
Speaker B:I'm not talking about your greatest fear in terms of being attacked, etc.
Speaker B:So forth.
Speaker B:I'm talking about your greatest fear of, oh, I would never, I would never speak in public or oh, I would never show anybody my art.
Speaker B:Oh, I'd never sing in front of anybody.
Speaker B:It may be that your greatest fear is your greatest gift.
Speaker B:And what happened is, as you were in your formative years and you were expressing and you were enjoying, possibly on your own, you were really enjoying opening up and expressing that you were told, don't be so stupid, don't be so silly.
Speaker B:Don't be so sensitive.
Speaker B:And when we hear something like that, it feels wrong.
Speaker B:So when we hear something like that, as little young ears hear something like that, oh, okay.
Speaker B:Oh, you can't do that.
Speaker B:Oh, you can't do that.
Speaker B:No, don't do that.
Speaker B:So when we hear this, this is imprinted into us not to do this.
Speaker B:And our limbic brains take note of this.
Speaker B:And when we feel we can't do this, don't do this.
Speaker B:Danger, danger, danger.
Speaker B:That's when our limbic brains can kick in with the fight, flight and the freeze.
Speaker B:So what can happen is we have changed.
Speaker B:We've adapted our personalities.
Speaker B:We've developed our personalities for other people.
Speaker B:We haven't developed our personalities based on our true essence.
Speaker B:We have based our personalities on what everybody else around us wants us to be.
Speaker B:Okay, so that's in the formative years.
Speaker B:So let's say then moving forward and then there's a situation and you've actually been playing with your gifts on your own, not with anybody else.
Speaker B:You've been singing or you've been creating or you've been feeling and, and, and developing gifts around you on your own, not telling anybody at all about it.
Speaker B:And when it comes to a situation where, let's say at school, when it's time to choose, in, in my day and age, it was GCSEs.
Speaker B:I believe it still is now.
Speaker B:We were one of the first with GCSEs.
Speaker B:When it comes to choose your options, you feel.
Speaker B:I really, really feel, to do this creative pursuit, and that feels so right for you.
Speaker B:And then somebody in your environment who sees you as something else, sees you as academic or sees you as sporty because you're not showing up as who you truly are because you've adapted your personality to please that person may say to you, oh, no, no, no, you can't do that.
Speaker B:You're better doing this because you're an academic and they tell you who you are and what you are and you accept that.
Speaker B:And that's another moment where you push your gifts slightly further down.
Speaker B:And you may have said, actually, I really would like to pursue art, I'd really like to pursue music, I'd really like to pursue writing, I'd really like to pursue performing arts or drama.
Speaker B:And their response was, no, you can't do that.
Speaker B:You're this.
Speaker B:Okay, so another example of where you may started pushing that down.
Speaker B:So we've gone from formative years of don't do that, don't be silly, don't be daft, you're too sensitive.
Speaker B:Stop crying.
Speaker B:We've started that people pleasing so everybody feels okay around us and we're being the good girl and the good boy and doing what we're told so we can fit in.
Speaker B:And then it develops and we have a huge passion for pursuing something creative and we're told no.
Speaker B:Then again, that can be seen as.
Speaker B:That's another limiting belief coming in, imprinting in is that I can't do that, I can't sing, I can't speak in public, I can't be on stage, I can't draw, I can't paint.
Speaker B:And all of this is just gently creating that little block and that wall against our true, true essence.
Speaker B:And it's so interesting when we review.
Speaker B:And by the way, we are not reliving, we are reviewing.
Speaker B:So what we're doing is we're understanding our sensitivity and we're understanding that perhaps there have been moments in our lives where we started pushing it down.
Speaker B:Okay, so.
Speaker B:So there are a couple of examples there.
Speaker B:And it may be that you went through your school life and you did the.
Speaker B:You did the exams that you were told to do.
Speaker B:You did very well because you were seen as an academic, or you did very well because you were seen as sporty and you did all that you were told to do.
Speaker B:And for those of you who are Listening.
Speaker B:By the way, I'm using inverted comma commas.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:So you were the good girl, you were the good boy.
Speaker B:You did what you were told.
Speaker B:You were the academic.
Speaker B:You were the sports person.
Speaker B:You showed up as that person, and you pushed your gifts further and further and further away.
Speaker B:Now, as it came to the end of the school life, perhaps your gifts started coming back up again.
Speaker B:Because, you know, we're.
Speaker B:We're coming into adulthood.
Speaker B:We're coming into, you know, 16, 17 years old, where it's, you know, it's time to start, you know, really embracing who.
Speaker B:Who we are.
Speaker B:And perhaps as you got your grades, as you got your scholarships, whatever feels appropriate for you, or you were the good girl and you followed the lessons, the classes you were supposed to follow, and you did your absolute best, and your family's delighted with you, and then you feel, okay, fine, so I've done that for them.
Speaker B:Maybe now I can choose what I really feel that I want to do.
Speaker B:And it may be by this point your gifts were completely pushed away.
Speaker B:It may have been that you were.
Speaker B:They were still trying to come up so you could embrace them.
Speaker B:So it may be that as you were entered into 16, 17, going into a levels, and you felt, okay, so now I know.
Speaker B:I really, really feel to do this.
Speaker B:I can do.
Speaker B:I can do an A level in what I absolutely love, in my passion, and it feels so right.
Speaker B:And again, you have a conversation with your family members and you feel that at this age, this is your choice.
Speaker B:And you receive a reaction of, no, you're not doing this.
Speaker B:You're an academic.
Speaker B:And because you're the good girl or the good boy, even though it feels like an absolute punch in the stomach, a punch in the heart, because you're used to acting that way, and that's your pattern.
Speaker B:And you believe your family members and you believe your elders, and you want to please and do what you're told.
Speaker B:Then you accept that.
Speaker B:And then there's another moment where you're pushing that away.
Speaker B:So these are just examples.
Speaker B:So these are your.
Speaker B:This is us in our youth.
Speaker B:So then once we have developed these patterns of people pleasing, of being who everybody around us wants us to be for them to be happy.
Speaker B:And again, no blame, no judgment.
Speaker B:It's just that, oh, okay, it's eureka moments, we can start really understanding our sensitivity and really understanding how it has been pushed so far down and how we allowed that to happen.
Speaker B:Because once we enter, so let's say, so A levels, you enter into your A levels and you do the Exams, the lessons that you were told to do and you are not enjoying them.
Speaker B:You may rebel or you may just put your head down, get on with them, really not enjoy them and, you know, just get on with it.
Speaker B:And enter into the nine to five.
Speaker B:Well, this is what I'm here to do.
Speaker B:I get a qualification in this and then I'm going to start working there or I'm going to continue this into university, or I'm going to continue this, this into, you know, this is who I am now.
Speaker B:I'm an academic, I'm going to be a doctor, I'm going to be scientist, I'm going to be a mathematician, I'm going to be.
Speaker B:Fill in the blanks.
Speaker B:Whatever you're supposed to be, you're going to be that.
Speaker B:I'm going to be a lawyer.
Speaker B:Okay, so we're going to be a secretary or I'm going to be an admin person.
Speaker B:Whatever it is, it just.
Speaker B:You have accepted that because you studied what you were told to study and then you continue studying what you were told to study.
Speaker B:You're not creative, you don't have any gifts.
Speaker B:You're going to enter the world with, without creativity, because you don't have creativity.
Speaker B:You're just going to follow what you're told to do and what you believe, as society tells you, is why you're here.
Speaker B:So again, really, really gentle with yourself with these realizations.
Speaker B:So once we enter into this.
Speaker B:So perhaps you went to university and you carried on your studying.
Speaker B:Perhaps you got to the point where you thought, well, actually, there's no point in me going to university.
Speaker B:I'm not, not going to study what I want to study anyway, so there's no point in me going.
Speaker B:So maybe you rebelled and you went in a completely different direction.
Speaker B:And maybe you started pushing down your gifts with addictive tendencies.
Speaker B:Maybe you started surrounding yourself with, with environments that really didn't serve you, that were a distraction.
Speaker B:As in flight, they were a distraction.
Speaker B:We talk about the three F's.
Speaker B:Flight is distraction.
Speaker B:And it was taking you away from who you truly are.
Speaker B:Or maybe you just.
Speaker B:Whenever somebody was creative or an artist, you just.
Speaker B:Yeah, that's ridiculous.
Speaker B:Who do they think they are?
Speaker B:Because there was an imprint in you that stupid.
Speaker B:That, that's silly.
Speaker B:And you may maybe have formed the opinion that you couldn't get paid as an artist, you couldn't make any money as an artist.
Speaker B:And I'm talking about artists in all ways, by the way, not just an artist in terms of creating beautiful portraits.
Speaker B:I'm talking about artists, the way I talk about sensitivity, I talk about artists, it covers everything.
Speaker B:So you may have felt because you were told to study this, because doing that, that's not you, is stupid and is, is, is not going to serve you in living your life.
Speaker B:And you're going to fit in with society's norm, you're going to fit in with how you've been told to live.
Speaker B:And that's how you live your life and that's how you, you're in relationships.
Speaker B:So it may be moving forward that you took that fitting in and you took that Persona of who your family and who your elders wanted you to be, who your teachers saw you as, who your elders saw you as, who your family saw you as.
Speaker B:And you took that Persona into adulthood and you went into the nine to five and you fitted into the university life or the academic life and you furthered your studies to be who you were told to be.
Speaker B:And your creativity by this point, your artistry by this point is non existent.
Speaker B:And it may be that you, you had it as a hobby.
Speaker B:Lovely.
Speaker B:Maybe you kept it as a hobby and that's wonderful, that's brilliant.
Speaker B:It may be that you kept it as a hobby and it may be that as you kept it as a hobby, it started becoming more and more and more passionate in your life and you realize, actually that's really what I want to do.
Speaker B:And you started going in that direction.
Speaker B:It may be that you didn't keep it as a hobby because you were told it was stupid, because you were told it wouldn't get you anywhere, because you were told there was no point doing that, because you were told you were too sensitive.
Speaker B:So the beliefs that you've created have created something in you that stops you from doing that.
Speaker B:So anytime there's any opportunity for you to enter into this beautiful, gorgeous gift of yours, you don't recognize it, you don't embrace it.
Speaker B:Because when you're told you can't do something, when we're told we can't do something, when we're told no, no, no, lots and lots and lots and lots of times we start believing that.
Speaker B:So if you're told you're too sensitive to be an actor, if you're told you're too sensitive to enter into world of art, if you're told you're too sensitive to be in music, to be a singer, then you're going to start believing this.
Speaker B:And this limiting belief will start kicking into your three Fs, your fight, flight and freeze.
Speaker B:That whenever an opportunity comes up, you just See that as danger.
Speaker B:You see, you see that because you've been told you can't do it.
Speaker B:It's a fear response.
Speaker B:And you will kick into that limbic brain and you will find everything.
Speaker B:Distraction, avoidance, resistance from entering in that.
Speaker B:So we're working in really peeling off those layers.
Speaker B:And what I'd like to really support you in as well is accepting that you chose this life, accepting that you chose to have these experiences.
Speaker B:So as you get to where you are now, because there's a reason you're listening or watching this, as you get to where you are now and you realize I have these gorgeous gifts for the world, it was so important for you to experience what you did, because it's very likely, my gorgeous or here to help others embrace their gifts.
Speaker B:And with the experience that you've had and the knowledge that you have, you can help others in that situation.
Speaker B:And it may be as well that all the experiences you've had, all the growth that you've had has got you to this place.
Speaker B:So you can hugely embrace your gifts, massively accepting where you've been, how you got to where you are.
Speaker B:So when you're developing those gifts, you're developing those gifts from a place of acceptance, not from I have to, but I choose to.
Speaker B:So you're choosing.
Speaker B:You're not having to.
Speaker B:You're not in a place where, oh, I should have done this.
Speaker B:Shoulda, woulda, coulda.
Speaker B:You're in a place of.
Speaker B:Actually, I really enjoy singing.
Speaker B:I really enjoy writing poetry.
Speaker B:I really enjoy music.
Speaker B:I really enjoy creating.
Speaker B:I love creating this, I loved creating that.
Speaker B:I loved having ideas for inventions.
Speaker B:And you're doing all of this now from a really beautiful place of acceptance, of being in flow.
Speaker B:And that's huge.
Speaker B:So it's never too late, my gorgeous.
Speaker B:Remember that it doesn't matter what you've been through.
Speaker B:It's focusing on where you are now and really embracing where you are now from a really beautiful, grounded state of flow so you can start developing those gifts.
Speaker B:So it's when we have those sort of eureka moments, it's like, oh, yes, that happened, that happened, that happened.
Speaker B:And although I really felt I really wanted to pursue my passion because it's come up, you know, in my 20s and my 30s and my 40s and my 50s and my 60s, I've never felt I've been able to because I've been scared to do it or I've thought it stupid or I thought, well, I can't do that.
Speaker B:When we recognize where it stemmed from and when we Accept that we created these limiting beliefs, we can start changing the narrative.
Speaker B:We can start changing the story that we're telling ourselves of who we truly are.
Speaker B:And regardless of what our elders and our family told us when we were growing up, they were just trying to keep us safe.
Speaker B:They could only be towards us in the way that they knew best.
Speaker B:And when we accept that, actually by them saying no, they thought it was by protecting us, by them saying, we can't do this, they felt that we were too sensitive and they wanted to keep us safe.
Speaker B:So it's not a blame game.
Speaker B:It's an acknowledgement game.
Speaker B:It's an accepting game.
Speaker B:So once we get to that point and we get that eureka of okay, so all these limiting beliefs have built up very, very steadily from since I was knee high to a grasshopper, then I can start really, really understanding my gifts, and I can start really embracing my gifts and working on my gifts and not just having a hobby or not just feeling that it's stupid or silly or it's never going to work or who's going to want to see my work.
Speaker B:So when we get to that point, that is a gift in itself.
Speaker B:And it's changing the narrative.
Speaker B:It's changing the story that you've been telling yourself that you're not creative.
Speaker B:It's telling the story that you've been telling yourself, oh, I can't do that.
Speaker B:It's telling yourself the story that I'm too vulnerable.
Speaker B:It's telling yourself the story, I'm too weak, I'm too sensitive, I'm too this, I'm too that.
Speaker B:Because that's what we've heard and that's what we've begun to accept.
Speaker B:Okay, so that's just a very, very gentle introduction to helping us understand where we started building up those blocks against our gifts.
Speaker B:And it's not just in childhood.
Speaker B:It follows us through our adulthood.
Speaker B:So it's recognizing where we may have shown up in a way in relationships.
Speaker B:And that can be intimate, that can be work relationships, that could be friendships where we were showing up how other people wanted us to show up.
Speaker B:Okay, so that's for the next episode.
Speaker B:So, my gorgeous, I'd like you to be really, really gentle with yourself.
Speaker B:And we're not reliving, we're not going into blame.
Speaker B:We're not going into, oh, it's all their fault.
Speaker B:We're going into reviewing and we're going to realization, and we're going into acceptance.
Speaker B:So the third thing that I would just like to close on is it may be really helpful for you as you've listened to this.
Speaker B:When you go, when you go away after this episode is to get yourself in a really beautiful space, not be disturbed, have a shower or a bath and get your pen and paper and just review.
Speaker B:And I would say choose three.
Speaker B:You don't have to go whole life story at the moment, just review three moments when you were younger where you may have brought that limiting belief in that you couldn't do something, or where you were told because somebody wanted to keep you safe, that you couldn't do that.
Speaker B:And that's what I would like you to do.
Speaker B:Just really gently identify that.
Speaker B:And that is all I would like you to do for this episode.
Speaker B:In the next episode, we're going to start looking into how those limiting beliefs may have shown up as you've gone into adulthood and through the rest of your life.
Speaker B:And again, we're not in judgment or blame mode.
Speaker B:We're in accepting mode.
Speaker B:All right gorgeous, so do get in touch with me if you have any questions on this episode and do be incredibly kind to yourself and compassionate with yourself.
Speaker B:Please kindly share.
Speaker B:If you feel this will help anybody you know.
Speaker B:And also if you are feeling you would like to have any coaching with me on a one to one basis, do get in touch and apply for an expansion call with me and see if we're a right fit.
Speaker B:Okay?
Speaker B:So here's to your self empowerment.
Speaker B:Here's to your self acceptance.
Speaker B:Here is to you living your most fabulous life, accepting all gorgeous aspects of yourself and really remembering who you were born to be with.
Speaker B:So much love.
Speaker B:I look forward to seeing in the next episode.
Speaker A:Thank you so much for joining me for this episode of Accepting.
Speaker A:Please do stay tuned for future episodes and also subscribe wherever you get your podcast.
Speaker B:If there's anything at all that you'd.
Speaker A:Like me to cover in future episodes, please get in touch and let me know.
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Speaker B:And if you'd like to have any.
Speaker A:Coaching at all or you would like to discuss this, do book an expansion call for now.
Speaker A:I'm your host, Aline and to your self acceptance, Gorgeous, with so much love.
