The Art of Accepting Yourself: Unveiling Your True Nature
Self-acceptance is the name of the game in our first episode of Accepting, and trust me, it's the real deal. I’m Aline, your acceptance coach, and we’re diving deep into the nitty-gritty of loving every single aspect of ourselves, even those bits we usually shove under the rug. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows, folks; we’re here for the full human experience, shadows and all. I’m sharing how embracing our quirks—like that temper you thought was a curse—can actually fuel our passion and purpose. So, grab a comfy seat, kick back, and let’s get into why accepting who we are is the first step to living our truth and being of service to others without running on empty. Let's get this self-love party started!
The focus of this inaugural episode of Accepting is the pivotal theme of self-acceptance, a foundational element in our journey toward personal authenticity. As your host, I am dedicated to guiding highly sensitive individuals and empaths in embracing their true selves amidst the complexities of human experience. We delve into the intricacies of accepting not only our positive attributes but also the aspects that society may deem as negative, thereby reshaping the narrative we hold about ourselves. It is essential to recognize that self-acceptance serves as the bedrock for fostering genuine change and nurturing our inherent gifts, allowing us to operate from a place of empowerment rather than societal expectation. As we embark on this exploration, I encourage you to reflect on your own journey of self-acceptance and the profound transformations that await as we learn to embrace every facet of our being.
Embarking on the journey of self-acceptance is not merely an act of self-love, but rather a comprehensive reevaluation of one’s identity, as elucidated in this thought-provoking episode of Accepting. Aline, the host and acceptance coach, posits that true self-acceptance is integral to personal empowerment and the ability to live authentically. She articulates that the process requires individuals to embrace all aspects of themselves, including qualities that society may deem unfavorable. By reframing these attributes, listeners are encouraged to recognize their inherent value and potential, thus transforming their self-narrative. Aline draws upon her experiences as a sensitive individual, sharing how she has learned to accept and channel her emotions productively, rather than allowing them to control her.
Kicking off a journey of self-discovery, Aline, your new guide in the realm of acceptance, takes us through the essential steps of self-acceptance—the foundation of living authentically. She opens up about the importance of loving every part of ourselves, even the bits we might want to shove into the closet and forget about. This isn’t just about wearing a smile and pretending everything’s peachy; it’s about the real, nitty-gritty work of acknowledging our shadow selves. Aline’s passion shines through as she explains that true acceptance is crucial before we can start making meaningful changes in our lives.
Throughout the episode, Aline emphasizes the unique struggles faced by empaths and highly sensitive individuals, who often feel the weight of the world around them. She shares how societal pressures can lead us to suppress our true selves in favor of fitting in, which can create a whirlwind of anxiety and stress. By sharing her personal anecdotes, including her own fiery temper, Aline illustrates how we can transform perceived negatives into powerful assets. It’s all about reframing our narratives, folks!
As we delve deeper, Aline encourages listeners to create healthy boundaries as a crucial component of self-acceptance. This sets the stage for future discussions, where she promises to dive into how we can protect our energy while still being of service to others. The episode wraps up with a gentle nudge to be open to the shifts that self-acceptance brings into our lives. Aline reassures us that as we raise our vibrations through acceptance, the universe will respond, often in unexpected ways. It’s a poignant reminder that embracing our true selves is not just a personal journey, but also a transformative experience that reverberates through our entire lives. Get ready to lean into this adventure of self-love and acceptance!
Transcript
Hello, gorgeous. And a warm, warm welcome to the very first episode of Accepting. I'm Aline your host. I'm the acceptance coach.
I am a channel, I'm a coach and I'm a mentor. And I love to see highly sensitive people and empaths in all walks of life flourish.
So in this series, we're going to be deep diving into what accepting means. And the first episode is all about. It begins with accepting. So in this episode, we're going to cover how we can start self acceptance.
We're going to cover how we can begin to accept who we are, how we are, where we are. So firstly, self acceptance is all about loving every single aspect of ourselves. So it's not all Pollyanna, we're here for an experience.
We're here for a human experience. It's not all skipping through the sunflower fields, although that'd be marvellous, and unicorns and rainbows, all that is included.
This is about accepting every single aspect of ourselves and an aspect that we may have thought, oh, well, that's a negative aspect. It's changing the narrative of how we see ourselves.
So instead of pushing all we are down to come up as this perfect good boy or good girl, we are accepting every single aspect of ourselves first.
And it's so important that we do this because before we can make any kind of healthy changes in our environment or we begin our inner work, we have to accept who we truly are, shadows and all. And in next episodes, I'm going to be really deep diving into how we can really, really delve into that and really dive into inner work.
So self acceptance is fundamental.
And as we accept ourselves, who we truly are, not how other people think we are, that is when we start living in our truth, we start living with authenticity. We start making changes and making decisions from a very grounded and centered point because we know who we are, we rock. So it's so important.
I may have said this once or twice, I will say it again. It is so important that we accept all about ourselves. So, for example, you may be used to people going, oh, isn't she lovely? Isn't he lovely?
He's always helping. He was just wonderful. Okay, great. What do you think about yourself?
And when you're running around helping everybody else, do you ever have any time for yourself? Okay, so that's my first question to you.
Now the next part of this is as empaths, as intuitive empaths, as sensitives, because we feel so much, we, we're here to serve. You know, we, we chose this experience so we can be of service.
And to be of service, we need to really, really check in and look after ourselves first.
Because if we're being of service when our cup is really, really, really, really low, because we're exhausted, because we've helped everybody else to the nth degree around us, we are not going to be being of service in the best way possible. The best way to be of service is allowing ourselves to be all we are and allowing ourselves to have time to be all we are.
So with self acceptance, it's really important to take that time to get to know yourself. And this means creating healthy boundaries, which I'm going to go into in the next episode, actually.
So as we accept ourselves and accept every single aspect of ourselves and we create those healthy boundaries, that is when we show up on our power to help others, which is why we are here.
And it's very likely, my gorgeous, that perhaps in childhood or at school, the conditions of society have made you feel that your gifts are your hindrances. And that is why I am here, is to help you accept how gorgeous those gifts are.
Whatever those gifts are that you've been pushing down, we're going to be bringing those up for you to really embrace them. Okay. Now also with accepting ourselves. So, for example, I have a temper.
Some people are very shocked at this, and they're very shocked when it goes as well, I have a temper. Now, I used to not embrace this temper. I used to try and push it down.
I used to try and go off somewhere else and be in a rage and punch pillows or whatever. Now I use my temper for good. I'm a massive animal applicator. And I channel that temper for good causes.
I channel that temper so it lights a fire in me so I can be of service. So that is an example of taking something that you see as negative or a shadow aspect and changing that narrative.
Because my temper also means that it's very likely I have psychic abilities, which I do have. And if you have a temper, if there's anything in your life that people have said, oh, well, you know, she's. She's got a quick temper.
He gets a bit moody. Yeah, he doesn't like being with other people. These are all aspects of who you truly are. So if you need your time away from people, honor that.
I know I do, always. And if you have a temper, honor that. I'm not saying go raging through the streets.
What I'm saying is really, really feel into, why do you have that temper? Why is that coming up in you what are you so passionate about that you have pushed down and down and down? It's trying to burst to the surface.
So that's just a little insight to self acceptance. The next part of acceptance is accepting how we are. So in terms of accepting who we are, it's also how we are when we're in our formative years.
And if you had help when you were growing up with this, that is wonderful. I am so happy for you.
I'm talking about those of us who were in environments where people didn't necessarily understand our gifts and thought we were oversensitive or thought, oh, she's crying again. And as we go through adulthood, that can go with us and we can feel, oh, well, I can't be sensitive. I have to try and fit in.
I have to be what other people want me to be. And so that's how I can survive. And we can be very much in the three Fs, which is another episode. We can be very much in survival mode.
And when we're in survival mode, we're in our sympathetic nervous system, not in our flowing parasympathetic system. And so we're constantly stressed.
We've got shoulders up round the ears, shortness of breath, and we're in anxiety or we're in feeling constantly defensive.
Because when we were younger, as we were growing into our gifts, these beautiful gifts that we chose to bring with us, they weren't accepted by those around us because they weren't understood.
So we were quick to realise, wrongly or rightly, there is no wrong or right, there just is, that for us to fit in, we had to change our whole essence and pretend to be somebody else entirely so we could be accepted. This is something I'm very passionate about.
So when we are, as I said, when we're in our formative years and we've made that decision to try and fit in and we're not being who we were truly born to be and we're in a state of trying to keep up with the Joneses, or we're in a state of adapting constantly that switches on our limbic brain and that puts us into fight, flight, freeze mode of survival.
So it's very, very likely that as a child, not that you would have realized it because this felt normal, that you were in a constant state of stress without realizing it and carry this through into your adulthood and carry these patterns through in teens, in relationships, the people pleasing aspect.
Because when we're younger and we realize some consciously or consciously that actually we're feeling everything of what's going on around us from everybody. And that for us to feel okay, we don't necessarily need to voice this, we just feel this. For us to feel okay, everybody around us needs to feel okay.
And this is where we can start. People pleasing from the nth degree.
Because if somebody's feeling depressed or angry or upset and just walks past us because we don't have the capacity to understand what is ours or understand what is somebody else's, we took that on as our own without understanding that just because a man walked past us in the street as we were holding mummy or daddy's hand and we suddenly went, or we suddenly started crying for absolutely no reason, that wasn't our stuff. For we had a tantrum. That wasn't our stuff. And it's so interesting. Excuse me, throat chakra. It is so interesting.
As we start accepting ourselves and we're not reliving the past, we're reviewing the past and we have these kind of like, eureka moments, like, oh, that makes so much sense now because we were trying to adapt to who other people wanted us to be.
Not understanding why we're feeling so much and trying to navigate everybody else's energies around us whilst also navigating our family's energy and trying to fit in. It's exhausting. So I really invite you, my gorgeous, to start accepting all aspects of yourself. And Neeli, I'm very passionate about this.
I use my hands a lot. I'm very passionate. So for those of you who are listening, I nearly knocked everything flying.
So when we feel into truly, truly, truly who we are, that is when we can start accepting ourselves. And I'm not saying it's easy. I'm just saying it's really, really, really vital that you now start accepting every aspect of yourself.
If you truly wish to live your most authentic life and be in your gorgeous power and embrace your gorgeous gifts and be all you were born to be, you have to start with yourself, my gorgeous. Okay?
And we're going to be diving into more and more and more of this now, also with self acceptance, what starts to happen, and this is why I'm saying it's not easy. What starts to happen is as we begin to accept ourselves, our vibrations start to raise.
And as we begin to accept ourselves, this may have already happened to you. Then things naturally start changing around us because we're changing our perception of ourselves inside.
We're not changing who we are, we're changing our narrative. We're changing our perception of who we are. And we're embracing ourselves and we're loving ourselves.
Our right vibrations start to rise and anything in our environment that doesn't match that vibration is going to start going.
If we don't allow whatever doesn't serve us to go, the universe will pop in because our vibrations are raising and the universe is listening to all of the work that we're doing on ourselves. No. Oh well, he or she or they are doing this so well. That doesn't work for them. Let's get rid of that.
So I would really invite you to, if this hasn't happened already, as you're really gently going into accepting yourself, accept that things around you may be changing. Quick example. I was plonked on my backside eight years ago because I didn't listen. I had so many messages of what was going on.
I dipped my toe in the spiritual ball and I was at a shamanic workshop that I organized for my teachers that night. We were in a beautiful circle. My intention and intentions are really, really, really powerful was to live my most authentic life.
And that night I fell on my backside. And that was my blessing in disguise because I wasn't living my most authentic life.
And for me to live my most authentic life, I had to really go inside and accept every aspect of myself. So my gorgeous, thank you so much for watching. I really hoped this episode was useful for you.
If you have any insights or any questions, please do get in touch with me. Please kindly share if you feel this is relevant for anybody else, subscribe if you're on YouTube and follow if you're listening along.
And the next episode. We're going to be diving into creating healthy boundaries as you're accepting yourself. That's vital as well. So thank you so much for joining me.
So much love. Here's to your self acceptance and your self empowerment.
